Posts Tagged ‘Skill Building’

Life Coach Lesson: Finding Value In Complaints

March 12th, 2013

ComplaintsThere is wisdom in turning a welcoming ear to complaints, in listening to negative comments – whether at home or in the workplace.  Why?  Because, like it or not, those complaints and grumblings are feedback, most probably based on a germ of truth and, certainly, they hold the seeds of a solution.

Listen carefully and objectively.  Your next big business-improvement or relationship enhancement idea could be dished out by a dissatisfied customer or friend, given to you by a grumbling employee or family member, or a complaining colleague or loved one.

As you listen, instead of responding defensively and justifying your actions or position, ask yourself:  what grain of truth is in his complaint?  What’s her dissatisfaction pointing out that I need to see more clearly and address constructively?

Don’t be put off by negative feedback.  Explore it.  You could unearth an idea, though yet disguised as a complaint, that just might enhance your profit picture and your life.

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New Beginnings! TeressaMooreGriffin.com Goes LIVE.

January 9th, 2013

TeressaMooreGriffin.comThe new year is about new beginnings.  Which makes the announcement of my new website TeressaMooreGriffin.com rather timely.

I’ve spent decades successfully helping executives become more effective and purpose-driven in their jobs.  Over the years I’ve seen the role of leadership change from that which is exclusive to the very top echelon of a company to something required of every employee no matter their rank.

Successful companies know that leadership, creativity and innovation doesn’t always come from the top.  Valuable insight and drive can come from anywhere along the chain of command.  This means two things.  Today’s executives need to better understand how to capitalize on the intellectual power and energy within their company, and up and down the corporate ladder, employees must learn how to make their impact felt.

It is that knowledge that I share with you on TeressaMooreGriffin.com – the latest online community that has sprung from Spirit of Purpose™.

This new website is also the home of my Office Talk reports, heard regularly on KYW Newsradio Online.  Office Talk provides quick, easy-to-digest tips on being effective at work.  The topics cover a wide range, including how to conduct productive meetings, mentoring and being mentored, failing your way to success and how to get through difficult, but necessary conversations.

Being more effective at work leads to being happy at work and in life.  There are simple adjustments you can make to change your attitude and behavior that will catapult you to the top, or simply make you feel more powerful and productive where you are.

TeressaMooreGriffin.com is live right now!  Stop by and visit.  I’ll update Office Talk every week with the latest written and audio versions of my reports.  Audio is included so you multi-taskers can listen to these 1-minute reports while you work!

Let me know what obstacles you face in the workplace.  Chances are you’re not alone.  I want to make sure “Office Talk” addresses real issues people are dealing with as they manage people and processes in their everyday worklife.

Here’s to a prosperous and happy 2013 for you at home and at work!

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How To Give Yourself the Gift of Change This Year

December 18th, 2012

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I was coaching a man recently, and his reaction to the call for change was classic.

To Jack, changing meant he wouldn’t be the person he used to be.  About that, we agreed.  He wouldn’t be his old self any longer.

As he contemplated change, his concerns began to surface. “I don’t want to lose myself.  I mean, I’m me.  I’ve been this way all of my life.  Anything else would feel phony and awkward.”

Jack also admitted that he was concerned about how others would see him and respond to the changes.   He worried that he wouldn’t be seen as credible.  “Who’s going to believe it?”

I offered the thought that changing wouldn’t make him less of who he is.  He’d become more.  He’d have access to more of his whole self which includes parts and behavior patterns he knows well, parts and potential that are less familiar, and skill and abilities that are underdeveloped.

“Jack, any time you want to stop using the new skill, you can.  At will, you can go back to your old way because whatever you change – a behavior, a mindset, a belief – it’s still yours.  You can call it up and begin using it again, any time you choose.  In a very real sense, you haven’t lost anything, you’ve added something.”

Jack breathed a sigh of relief.  “That makes perfect sense.  It seems so simple when you say it that way.  I’m in.  I’ll give it a try.”

This holiday season, give yourself the gift of change.   Become more of who you really are.

Make a decision to let go of LIES That Limit your freedom of choice, your effectiveness at work, your success in relationships, your willingness to take action and make changes for your own good.

Try something you’ve been wanting to do.  Learn a skill that intrigues you.  Give up a habit that no longer serves you.  Adopt a new behavior or perspective that will help you live better now.

When you add new experiences, beliefs and behaviors to your repertoire, you expand your capacity, broaden your range of capability, and deepen your awareness of your limitless potential.  Emboldened with a new skill set and perspective, you’re equipped to do more, to embody more of who you really are.  You take another step in the direction of wholeness.

So, what about you?  What changes are calling to you – changes that might help you gain access to more of your whole self?

My personal answer is simple.  I have two commitments:

  1. I’m going to give myself a morning and an afternoon practice of taking ten deep, conscious breaths with the goals of relaxing, clearing my mind and energizing my body.
  2. At least four days a week this winter (I walk during the summer, happily, but avoid the winter winds), I’m going to walk three miles a day.  Walking helps me to inhabit my body, work out the kinks, strengthen my legs, lungs and heart, build physical energy and facilitate mental clarity.  I deserve these good gifts all year-round.

Embrace your change – be it large or small – and make 2013 the year you become more of who you really are.

Happy Holidays!

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You Already Have What You Need To Live Your Dreams

September 25th, 2012

I’ve shared over the last few weeks that through the magic of mirror neurons, you can dance like Beyoncéread minds and change the people around you.  After this final installment, you’ll know how to put mirror neurons to use to achieve your goals!

Scientific data suggests you already have within your mind the tools you need be more of what you want to be – more successful, higher performing, purpose driven, inspiring, admired and committed to your personal and professional growth.  Knowing you have these tools and putting them to  use will also have an enormous impact on your self-esteem and sense of confidence.  Need a dose of that today?  Just keep reading.

Mirror neurons, special cells in the brain, allow you to improve your performance by rehearsing an action or scene in your mind.  Whether it’s a sensitive conversation you need to have with a colleague or friend, an important presentation, your golf swing or that new piece of piano music you’re learning, without lifting finger, you can get better.  Professional athletes and others who understand the creative power of their minds have used this technique so successfully that it’s a standard in elite training systems.

Because observation of excellence improves performance, top performers watch those who are the best in their field.  They watch and learn, mirroring in their minds what they’re witnessing.  They perform the act while watching it being carried out by someone else.  In other words, “If I see you do it, I mentally do it, too.”  Imagining your self perfecting a skill is just as effective as observing known experts perform at their best.

If you’re interested in achieving the extraordinary, these findings about mirror neurons confirm the value of giving thought to your vision, daily and moment-to-moment.  Literally rehearse your new skill or improved life circumstance.  Feel it, think about it and act as if it’s real today.  Do it all in our mind.  Doing it internally will help it become your external reality.

Put your mirror neurons to work in service to your dreams and goals.  Mental practice, visualization and imagery are all part of the elite performer’s secret of success and self-mastery.  You can make it a part of yours, too.

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Dance Like Beyoncé. Sing Like Celine Dion.

September 12th, 2012

Mirror Neurons Make It All Possible

Interested in getting better at a particular skill? Want to learn how to do something you’ve never done before? Well, you’re in luck. Here’s the inspiration to encourage you to go for it, and the science that proves you can do it.

New scientific data indicate that whatever you see, you simulate in your mind. Yes! Whatever action and experience you see others engaged in, even though you don’t necessarily move a muscle, you feel the experience as if you were the one doing it. Think about the implications of this information. It could mean that you can dance like Beyoncé, move like Madonna and sing like Celine Dion.

As scientists explored some of the brain’s neurological wonders called mirror neurons, they noticed that when a subject watched another person perform an action, the region of the brain responsible for the action was activated in the subject’s brain.

Studies conducted by University of Washington’s Dr. Andrew Meltzoff suggest we’re hard-wired to imitate what we see. Mirror neurons are thought to be the reason why. Think about it: you yawn when you see someone else yawn. You’re very likely to smile or laugh when someone else does so. You react as if it’s painful when you see someone being punched hard. You probably feel a sense of humiliation when you witness another’s public failure or ridicule. And, if you’re like me, you cry when you see someone else cry. Well, it’s all the work of mirror neurons.

Here are a few instances of constructive mimicking from the world of sports. Sir Roger Gilbert Bannister was the first person known to run a mile in four minutes. After he ran his four-minute mile, many others did so. Until he did it, no one believed it was possible. After he proved it was possible, suddenly others were able to run a mile in four minutes.

Today, Olympic gold medalist Usain Bolt, currently said to be the fastest man in the world, knows that Yohan Blake is hot on his trail. Blake watched Bolt break the world record and knows he too can do it. In fact, according to the science of mirror neurons, Blake broke the world record while he witnessed Bolt accomplishing the feat. He did it in his mind. He mimicked Bolt’s actions and achievement, while Bolt carried out the task.

So, what does this mean for you and me? It means we can do just about anything we choose to. All we have to do is watch and learn…and maybe practice, practice, practice, too.

Seriously, whatever your development needs and interests, get to it. Find someone who does well what you want to learn. Watch them in action and let your mirror neurons support your success in learning the desired skill. Then, put the skill to use and perfect it through repeated, committed practice.

If you want to dance like Beyonce, move like Madonna or sing like Celine Dion, watch them at work. Let your mirror neurons take it all in. Then, get up and get busy trying out your new-found skills.

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